Don’t try to figure out what you can do to mend it. If you’re meant to be with each other, he or she will come back into your life in a huge way and make it known that they want things to be different. That said, don’t be hopeful that this will happen, because if it doesn’t, the last thing you want to be is devastated — again.
The ending of my last relationship was awful. I think it hurt as bad as it did because this wasn’t some random young guy, but because it was a young girl (yep! a girl lols.) who had just walked into my life. This was someone whom I’d been aquatinted with through ups and downs.
It was so bad that it’d made me hate the sunshine. It’s up there gleaming, looking down on you, being all sunny despite the fact that you feel like a slice of hell. The suffering is relentless. The sky is ugly.
I once read that the pain of the death of a loved one, the pain of the end of a relationship, and the pain of a child losing a teddy bear are no different. Pain is pain.
And to the one who experiences pain, it can be all consuming and can seem like the end of the world.
I don’t like it when some people think that just because your relationship only lasted a couple of months you should hurt less than if the relationship had been longer. Again, pain is pain. No one has the right to judge it, put limits on it, or qualify it.
Sometimes, it’s hard to imagine that you’ll ever feel better. So, what do you do? You can hate it if you want, resent it, resist it, or wish it wasn’t happening.
I do know that when all of the flirting, smiling, hand-holding, and special times on the couch are over, somehow you have to find a way to put the pieces of yourself back together.
That breakup was one of the most painful times of my life. I guess pain is more if we are dumped compared to the pain experienced when we dump someone. For many of us, the pain of breakup is very intense.
Now, How to make it less painful? Here’s some advice from someone who’s on the same shoes.
Avoid that douchebag COMPLETELY : The first result of a breakup is intense pain. If you are suffering a breakup, don’t avoid the pain, but to realize that the pain is good for you. It is natural to feel pain when you lose someone who had a lot of importance in your life. When you feel pain, it is almost like a sign saying that you are on the process of healing. There is no need to panic in such a situation. The best advice to overcome the pain would be to give in to it and let it have a positive impact in your life. The pain post breakup can be a source of inspiration for you to do something better, that you have always wanted yourself to do.
Be a busy bee: The best way to avoid post breakup blues and thoughts about your ex is to keep yourself busy all the time. The mind will not think if you do not give it time to wander. Keep yourself constantly involved in different types of activities. Pick up those activities that you love doing. This will remove your focus from the breakup to the activities you love. Activities will not only freshen up your mind and relieve you of the pain but they will also help in causing a diversion for your mind and would keep you away from thinking or even trying to keep yourself from contacting your ex.
Chika your feelings only to a close friend/friends: It is a bad idea to talk about your breakup to each and every friend of yours as they will eventually start avoiding you, thinking that you have nothing to talk except the breakup. On the other hand it would be a wise decision to pick up one friend/friends who you think will understand your thoughts and your feelings and will listen patiently to all that is on your mind. Remember that your close friends can be your greatest support system when it comes to breakup and they would honestly give you the best advice. Use this support system to the fullest and talk to your best friend when you feel post breakup blues.
Write write and write: Writing is one of the good ideas to vent out all the hidden pain, frustration and anger that the breakup brings with it. Maintaining a journal would release lot of hidden pain from your heart and head. After you recover from the breakup, it would also be an insight as to how much you have evolved as a person. There is no substitute for writing when it comes to getting out one’s feeling as you can keep editing your writing about your hurt.
Take care of your family: Your family is one of the biggest support system that you may have in your life. They would stand by you through thick and thin and would try their best to help you cope with the post breakup pain. Keeping yourself constantly involved with your family would not just keep you busy but would also ensure that you have people to stand by you when you have those gut wrenching feelings of grief and that you give them quality time and bond with them.
Your family understands your needs more than anyone else.
Throw away ALL memories : One of the ways to try and forget your ex is by throwing away each and every of those things that you may feel is reminding you of him/her. It is a difficult thing to do but it would be a start to forget all those times the two of you spent together. If you had been given a ring during the relationship, it is always a good idea to give the ring back or throw it away like what i did, imean who the fuck needs a ring if it will only remind you of the lies,cheating and broken promises he/she did. It will only dig up the scars of the broken relationship.
Focus on your career : Try and make your career the most important aspect in your life. There is no bigger a high than being successful in life. Efforts to build your career would keep you busy for something that you will reap rewards in the future. It would also show everyone that you are not a coward as you did not cower down after a sour relationship. Many people hide themselves under the sheets and lose out on their life and eventually lose out on their respect too. However, the ones who emerge successful after a broken relationship are the ones who are respected the most.
Lastly, Give yourself time.This is the most important phase (believe me) : It is essential to give yourself enough time. You must realize that nobody recovers from the grief of a breakup in a jiffy. It takes days and months before seeing any signs of recovery. It all depends on the type of person you are and how you can handle negativity in your life. Do not try to go in another relationship right after a breakup. It is important to think clearly and give yourself enough time before getting back into the dating scene after a breakup.
And just bare in mind, Someone will treat you exactly how you deserve to be treated. And when you meet that person, you’ll ask yourself, What the hell was I thinking with the last guy/sibs???!
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